Many of us disregard the importance of regular checkups. Some of us avoid doctor visits out of fear and others simply because it’s not part of our routine. When your loved one puts off seeing the doctor, a small health problem can become a more serious one. And some of the most serious health issues don’t always have obvious symptoms.
You may be the one person who can convince your loved one to go to the doctor. Give it a try.
Often just by asking some basic questions about diet and lifestyle and running some quick tests, a doctor can assess someone’s health and well-being. The doctor may be able to suggest behaviors or treatments to dramatically lower the risk of serious health problems.
It’s important for people of all ages to see a doctor regularly. People age 50 and over should see a doctor at least once a year.
African-Americans face a higher risk of some serious health conditions, including diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, cancer, asthma and obesity.
This guide provides advice regarding how to talk to your loved one about going to the doctor, being prepared for your appointment and other useful resources. Keep reading for this and more information, you might just save a loved one's life!
STEP 1: TALK TO YOUR LOVED ONE, THEN MAKE THE APPOINTMENT
You might need to turn on your powers of persuasion to get your loved one to agree to see a doctor. Many people have a long list of reasons for avoiding doctors’ visits. Don’t fight every point. Just ask them to do it for you and the rest of the family. Tell them you want to enjoy their company for many years to come, and this is one quick, easy step in helping to make that happen.
If your loved one is uninsured, visit www.healthlawanswers.org to get the facts about coverage under the Health Care Law. Also check out the Resources for Finding Health Centers for the Sevices You Need When Uninsured below.
STEP 2: GATHER INFORMATION BEFORE THE APPOINTMENT
Preparing a little in advance will help your loved one get a lot more out of the doctor visit. Here are some suggestions of information to gather before you go see the doctor. Remember: The most important thing is going to the doctor, so don’t worry if you cannot get all of this information together before the visit.
STEP 3: REVIEW A STAYING HEALTHY CHECKLIST
The Additional Resources section includes links where you can find health tips and suggested health screenings for all ages. You may want to review the age-appropriate list for your loved one and take it along with you on your visit.
STEP 4: HEAD FOR THE DOCTOR
Your loved one may not want you to join him or her in the examination room. Do not insist on doing so, but do try to ensure that you and your loved one get all of your questions answered before the appointment ends. If the doctor seems to be rushing through the appointment, be polite but firm in asking for more time for your loved one. Remember: Your loved one is the paying customer. Do not leave the doctor’s office until ALL of your questions are answered! A staff nurse or physician assistant may also be helpful in answering questions.
If you are in the appointment, take notes for your loved one. If not, urge him or her to write down the doctor’s answers to the questions and any special instructions on lifestyle and diet changes.
If the doctor orders follow-up tests — for example, blood tests for cholesterol, diabetes or other conditions — make sure you get clear instructions on how and where to do the tests and whether there is any out-of-pocket expense. Having this information will make getting the tests go more smoothly.
If the doctor conveys concern about a potential serious health condition, remain calm. Gather as much information as you can from the doctor, and never agree to any drastic actions — such as scheduling a surgery — without seeking a second opinion from another doctor.
STEP 5: TALK IT OVER AND PLAN HOW TO FOLLOW UP
Based on the doctor visit, your loved one may need to start new medications, begin a daily exercise routine or change his or her diet. Such changes may seem small, but they can feel burdensome to some people, for example, by implying that the patient has been misbehaving for years! Be sensitive to your loved one and commit as much time as you can to helping them make any transitions that will improve their health.
Let’s be real: Lifestyle changes can be hard. For example, it’s not often easy for some people to start exercising.But most people can start walking more. Walking is easy, convenient and inexpensive. Nearly everyone can do it at any skill level, from grandparents to children. Plus it has the lowest dropout rate and injury rate of all exercise programs.
Studies show that people who have exercise partners — even if for a simple 10-minute walk a few days a week — stick with their exercise plans better than people who try to go it alone. So help your loved one find a neighbor or friend to walk with.
Also, almost everyone who commits to lifestyle changes will occasionally slip up by overeating, sneaking a cigarette or skipping a day or two of exercise. That’s okay! We’re all human. The key is to get your loved one to view those events as minor interruptions, not an end to their health effort.
Keeping a list of medications can help you and your loved one keep track of what they are taking, including prescriptions and over-the-counter medicines and supplements. Check out the handy "Personal Medication Record" near the end of this guide.
One easy way you can continue to help is by having a daily phone call with your loved one — just a few minutes — to check in and ask how everything’s going.
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Your relationship with your doctor, including how well you talk with each other, affects your care. A good relationship — where you and your doctor share information and work together to make the best decisions about your health — will result in the best care. In addition to bringing your medications (or a list of them) and a list of any symptoms you may have, here are some questions to make talking to your doctor more effective:
Keeping a written health history can improve the health care you get and help you stay well. It serves as a memory device and a communication tool. Having a record of your health is especially handy when you have limited time during a doctor visit. Information your doctor might need to diagnose and treat you will be at your fingertips.
What to Include
You don't have to be an organization freak to keep health records. Nor do you need to spend countless hours of your time. At a minimum, you can use charts or blank pages in a journal or notebook to record:
Other Information to Write Down
And for a great online tool for writing your health history, check out My Family Health Portrait at https://familyhistory.hhs.gov/FHH/html/index.html
Use this handy medication record, http://assets.aarp.org/www.aarp.org_/articles/learntech/wellbeing/medication-record.pdf, to keep track of your loved one’s medications. Share it with their doctors and make some copies for family members.
Checklists for screening and health at any age: http://www.ahrq.gov/patients-consumers/index.html
Women: Stay Healthy at 50+ Checklists for your health: http://www.aarp.org/content/dam/aarp/health/conditions_treatments/2010_07/WomensOver50.pdf
Men: Stay Healthy at 50+ Checklists for your health: http://www.aarp.org/content/dam/aarp/health/conditions_treatments/2010_07/MensOver50.pdf
You want to take good care of yourself and your family, but have lost the health insurance you had or do not have the coverage you need for all your health care concerns. Finding a clinic and navigating program benefits may be confusing at best. The good news is that the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) has identified helpful web-based tools to assist you.
Search Affordable Clinics: HRSA’s Online Find a Health Center Search Tool - http://findahealthcenter.hrsa.gov/Search_HCC.aspx
AARP has the facts and answers to commonly asked questions about the Health Care Law at www.healthlawanswers.org.
Obtain Free or Reduced-Cost Health Care - https://www.hrsa.gov/get-health-care/affordable/hill-burton/index.html
Discover Federal and State Assistance Programs for Older Americans: AARP Benefits QuickLINK - www.aarp.org/quicklink
Get Help Obtaining Prescription Drugs - www.needymeds.org/
NeedyMeds is a nonprofit database that helps patients locate low-cost prescription drug programs.
Learn About Federal Government Benefits - www.benefits.gov/
Checklists for screening and health at any age - http://www.ahrq.gov/patients-consumers/index.html
Health Checklists for Men and Women Age 50+ - www.aarp.org/womenchecklist
Easy form for listing all the medications you take - www.aarp.org/medicationrecord
How to choose good medical care (from the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality) - www.ahrq.gov/consumer/qualcare.html
Preparing for a doctor visit (video) - http://assets.aarp.org/external_sites/caregiving/multimedia/BT_DoctorsVisits.html
Talking with your doctor — why it’s important - www.nia.nih.gov/HealthInformation/Publications/TalkingWithYourDoctor/
Ask the right questions about your prescriptions (video) - http://assets.aarp.org/external_sites/caregiving/multimedia/BT_TalkingtoYourDoc.html
Becoming a partner in your own care - www.aarp.org/health/doctors-hospitals/info-07-2010/keeping_your_own_health_records.html